Sidney M. Jourard
- Some Psychological Aspects of Privacy
One usually needs to leave other people behind in order to give up the way one has behaved in their presence. Being with people entails both pledge to appear before the others as one has in the past (to practice the ways with which they are familiar and with which they can cope without strain to themselves) and pressure from the others to remain as one has been. "Going away" can be, and usually is, the first step in psychological growth.